Behold
I am laying in Zion a stone,
a cornerstone chosen and precious,
a cornerstone chosen and precious,
and whoever believes in him will not
be put to shame (I Peter 2;6).
be put to shame (I Peter 2;6).
A
number of different words are used in scripture to express the concept of
shame. They include the idea of falling
into disgrace through failure of one’s self or one who had been an
object of trust. The various Hebrew and
Greek words for shame also include the concept of humiliation, disappointment,
and alienation.
Shame is a deep sense of
unworthiness which brings isolation and may leave a permanent mark on the
psyche. Shame is one of the deepest and most
troubling emotions human beings can experience.
Shame is attached to a sense of guilt, real or imagined. Since we are made in God’s image and are
given a conscience by which we either accuse or excuse our actions (Romans
2:15), a sense of guilt for destructive actions is quite normal. The accompanying sense of shame is something
much deeper than simple guilt, however. Shame
has the power to separate us from God, others, and even our own sense of
well-being.
When
I was a schoolboy, in fifth grade, I was falsely accused of defacing school
property. Someone had written graffiti
on the inside classroom walls. I was
entirely innocent, but the principal of the school became convinced that I was
guilty and implied it publicly in front of my classmates, though there was no
evidence. Despite the fact that I had
nothing to do with the vandalism, I felt extremely ashamed when she indicated
that I was the guilty person. I still
remember that feeling today. I was
innocent. Why should I feel such an
emotion? What is this deep-seated
emotion and where does it come from?
Psychologists
tell us that shame is a result of external factors such as harsh treatment, demeaning
words, unreasonable discipline, or as in this case, false accusation which we
received as children at some crucial stage of development. The prescription for
healing often includes acknowledgement of the mistreatment to a therapist or
other neutral party. It is believed this
helps bring healing from the damage caused by shame. Those suffering in this way are then
encouraged to replace shame-based thoughts with a healthier self-image.
It is
my conviction that in some cases this approach is partially effective; but it does
not go nearly deep enough to address the root problem.
From
a biblical perspective shame is far more than what we experience, what others
do or say to us, or how we view ourselves.
It is written into our nature. It
is a part of our fallen psyche and cannot be purged with the most advanced or
clever human-crafted instrument. No, the
disease, while easing a bit with various treatments is, in fact, fatal. What do I mean?
We
are told that in the beginning, The man
and his wife were both naked and not ashamed (Genesis 2:25). Complete innocence and openness -- nothing to
hide. But after they fell into sin,
their character was transformed: “I heard
the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked and I hid
myself. God said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree
of which I commanded you not to eat? (Genesis 3:10-11). The man and the woman then disintegrate into
blame-shifting and alienation. Isolation
and alienation from God and others are the hallmarks of shame. Shame is rooted in our fallen nature. This is
what theologians call original sin. Original
guilt is the root of shame. So what is
the antidote?
The
solution is much deeper than simple therapy.
Nothing less than execution can destroy the roots of shame in our
minds. In fact death and resurrection --
a new birth -- is the only antidote to shame.
Jesus identifies with our guilt and rejection and the accompanying
emotion of shame. He who knew no sin became sin for us that we might become the
righteousness of God in him (II Corinthians 5:21). Only the inner transforming work of the Holy
Spirit can actually do away with the root cause of our shame. He bore our grief and carried our
sorrows. Through the new life he gives
us in baptism, he carries away our shame.
In
fact, the context of this passage cites several exchanges of guilt for freedom
that the work of Christ provides to us. But you are a chosen race, a royal
priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession . . . Once you were
not a people, but now you are God’s people; once you had not received mercy,
but now you have received mercy (I Peter 2:9-10).
This
is not to say that therapy to renew our mind and reconcile us to what Christ
has done for us is not useful, it is.
Paul tells us to be renewed in the spirit of our mind. This includes recognizing and accepting a new
mindset. But the source of our healing
is Christ, the healer.
He himself bore our sins in his
body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his
wounds you have been healed (I Peter 2:24).
So
then, let us find the true antidote for shame,
The honor is for you who believe .
. . the stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone (I Peter
2:7). Let us always remember, Whoever believes in him will not be put to
shame (v. 6).
With
this in mind, it is good to remember that the resurrection of Christ is the
complete restoration of an innocent and shameless condition before God – nothing
to hide, nothing to fear. Through Christ’s
resurrection we possess again, guileless and innocent, life and that more
abundantly!